Friday, October 29, 2010

Peanut Butter and Jelly

When I was younger I had a lot of friends. We hung out at church, the park, etc., we spent the night at each other's houses, we talked on the phone... all that good "friend" stuff. But, the thing is, I didn't really know what the word "friend" meant. Sure, these girls and I hung out, but were they really my friends? Some of them had tempers (just like me) and we would get upset with each other. Some of them used me. Some of them just pretended to be my friend, because they didn't really have any, and they didn't know what being a friend was. When I think of all those kids I knew, I can see how low I set my standards for friends. If they would talk to me, they were my friend. But honestly, we weren't really friends. Well, what is a friend?

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." --Walter Winchell

"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words." --Donna Roberts

"If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!" Ecclesiastes 4:10

"Truth and tears clear the way to a deep and lasting friendship." --Mariede Svign

A friend is someone who doesn't give up on you. Someone who stands with you through thick and thin. A friend is someone who's honest with you, and whom you're honest with. Someone who is always willing to lend a helping hand, or an encouraging thought. 

When my family and I moved, I was very upset because I lost all my friends. I went for months without any friends. It was so unusual for me, because I always had friends. I would cry and tell mom how much I missed them, and how much I wished God would bring more friends. And you know what? He did. He heard my prayers, He saw my tears. But He wanted me to wait. First, I needed to know what to look for in a friend. I didn't know what real friendship was, so how could I be a friend to someone? God waited a year or two before He finally brought me real friends. Wait a minute, yeah, I said friends. Plural. God brought me an abundance of friends. Just the right friends for me. The ones that inspire me, encourage me, love me, talk openly with me, laugh with me, feel my pain, and are never far behind when I need them. :) Let me introduce you to some of those besties....

Haley @ Haley's Happenings-- Haley and I met through our older sisters, actually. They have been pen pals for years, and when our families got the chance to meet each other in 2009 (which, by the way, was the best vacation ever!) Haley and I decided to write, because we clicked just like that, and I could tell there was something different about her. :) Haley knew what being a friend was and I knew I could count on her to stick with me through thick and thin. I saw the makings of a beautiful friendship with this girl! ;) She's so sweet and caring, and unlike me, she knows what being a good listener means. lol :D And if you need her to talk, she'll do that too! ;) We had so much fun on that vacation together! We even got separated from our family on the tour we took of a battleship. Haha (that was fun, wasn't it Haley?;) Haley and I have been faithful friends for over a year now and I adore her to pieces!! I mean, why wouldn't I? She's my other half!! :) I love you Haley!!

Taylor @ Excelsior-- Taylor and I met on blogger, last November (has it really been that long? Almost a year, Tay!). She put a picture on her blog of the moon and I was like, "Hey, I saw that same moon last night!" (Haha, I know. Sounds pretty stupid, huh?:) So we started emailing and just like that we became fast friends! We were so much alike, it was freaky. And the cool thing is, we got the chance to meet this year, in April! :D You can read about that adventure here and here. We had so much fun together and meeting her was... wow! I can't even begin to explain how awesome that was! After emailing her for five months, it was nice to finally be able to talk face to face (we had sent videos to each other before, and pics so it wasn't our first time to actually see each other). Tay and I are still emailing to this day, and I suspect we will be 80 years from now! :D That is, if we're still alive then. Haha. If not, we'll be chillin in heaven together. ;) Yep, definite BFs. I love you Tay!!

Bleah @ With Love & Kisses-- Bleah and I met through blogger. I guess you could say we were meant to be, because even though we had never really "talked" before, we got along so well on blogger, so we started writing each other!! The funny thing is, when Bleah asked me (through a comment on my blog) if I wanted to write her, I was actually signing into blogger to ask her.. Haha. Coincidence? I think NOT! :):):) My Bleah-bug and I have been writing since April 2010 (eep!) and let me tell you, she is such a bubbly, sweet, amazing person! We've spoken on the phone a few times and the first time she called me I couldn't believe it. Haha, I knew she was going to call, but I was just sitting there, speechless. It was so awesome! I wouldn't change one hair on her head. She's an amazing friend, and an even better bestie! :) I love you Bleah! 

Cassie @ Inside My Mind-- Cassie and I became friends when she won one of my giveaway's. I mailed her the gift and (being the sweet, lovely, beautiful-on-the-inside-and-out kinda girl she is) she sent me a thank you card, and asked if I'd like to start writing her. I was like, "Yes, yes, yes!!" :) Cassie is one amazing girl! She's so sweet (I cannot stress that enough). And like I said up there, she's beautiful on the inside, and out! Cassie and her family recently adopted a young, beautiful girl from China and I am so glad we were writing letters at that time. We got to encourage each other and such (I have been through the adopting process with my family, even though ours wasn't quite as challenging, because we adopted from the US). It felt like I was going through the whole process with her, as if I was a friend next door. She's so open in her letters, and so truthful. It's lovely! I absolutely adore Cass, and would never, ever give her up! No, not even for a million pieces of chocolate! Cassie is sweet enough for me. ;) Cassie and I have been writing since May of this year and I sure hope we'll be writing until our hands can't write anymore! lol :D I love you Cassie, my lovely chum! :)

Jillian @ His Handmaidens-- Jillian and I became friends when I asked her to be my pen pal in a comment on her blog (haha, yeah, this time I was the first to ask;). We got along so well on blogger, and we are a lot alike, so I was like, "Hey! Mom, can I ask her if she would want to write me?" Jillian has three sisters, I have three sisters. She loves femininity, I love femininity. She has blonde hair, I have blonde hair. She has blue eyes, I have blue eyes. There's so many more ways we're alike and it would probably make this a loooong paragraph if I named them all, but those are just some of them (more like 1/100 of 'em! lol:). She's such a nice person and she's so smart! Jillian and I get along very well and I love, love, love writing letters back and forth with her! She is such a commical, yet serious person. We're quite alike in that area. Shocker? Nah. ;) We have been pen pals since November of 2009. I love my girlfriend Jillian and I wish we lived closer so I could meet her someday! Who knows, maybe I will. :) Love ya Jillian!! xoxo :D

Charity @ Footprints In The Sand-- Charity and I started emailing when I found her blog and read that her late dad, Chris Klicka, had MS. Charity said we could email and encourage each other, since she could relate to everything that I was going through at the time (and now). Wow! Where do I begin? Charity is such a blessing and encouragement to me! She's so thoughtful and she always knows just what to say! Charity and I emailed for a while and then decided to write each other, because it would be easier on the both of us, instead of checking our email several times a day. ;) I'm so glad that I found Charity's blog, because she is part of the reason that I am able to go through these trying times in my life (with my dad's illness). This girl is amazing!! You will never find anyone like her. :) We started emailing sometime in February of this year, (will be one year in four months!! Woohoo! :D) Almost a whole year of beautiful encouragement, and a wonderful friendship! Thank you God for Charity. I love you girl!! <3

These girls are amazing, and every one of them love the Lord so much! I would have to say, that's the most important thing in a friendship, a heart for God. My other friends, they weren't all Christians, and if they said they were, they didn't live like it. God had a plan, to give me amazing [real] friends, but He wanted me wait. He wanted me to be patient, and trust in Him. And when I finally did, He blessed me with 6, beautiful, lovely, inspiring, amazing and totally awesome friends!

God has even given me you, my bloggy peeps, to encourage me in my walk with Him, and with everything that's going on in my life. God is good, all the time. All the time, God is good! :) I thank Him for Haley. I thank Him for Taylor. I thank Him for Bleah. I thank Him for Cassie. I thank Him for Jillian. I thank Him for Charity. And I thank Him for each and every one of you. :)

9 Greetings from Elven Friends

Kendra said...

Going to visit all of their blogs!

Nela said...

That was very sweet on what your wrote about. :)
God has truly blessed you beyond measure and remember to be thankful about it! :)
God Bless You.

Squeaks said...

That's so cool how you've made friends on blogger :P I never even considered writing people... XD


Cassie said...

Awww... girl... you are the one who is SO sweet! Thank you so much for being my friend... I am so blessed to know you!

Oh, yes, of course. I would lose my hand before I would stop writing to you. *smiles*

I adore you too, "Eldarwen"!

With love, hugs, lots and lots of chocolate, and hopes to meet in person one day :D,

Your Forever Friend and "sister",

Eldarwen said...

Cassie, *big, huge hugs & kisses* I love you too! Oh yes, we will HAVE to meet someday!! Ooh, how exciting would that be?! :D Love,
"Eldarwen" ;)

Cassie said...


It would be BEYOND exciting!!! And F-U-N!


Jillian said...

Guilt factor way up for me! Ack, I'm ssoooooo sorry I have not written in forever. I'm gonna do that as soon as I take a shower and have breakfast. You are such a great friend! Yeesh, I have loads to tell ya...

Haley said...

Eldarwen, when I heard Lindsay's pen pal had a younger sister I was like, "Maybe we could be pen pals." ;) I had it all planned out! ;)

The battleship was so much fun. It felt like we kept going in circles, and then finally we found everyone! :D Good times. Playing Apples to Apples was a blast, too! :)

Since I'm more of a listener and you're more of a talker, we go well together. ;)

You're so sweet! Thanks for being such a wonderful friend! I love you too! :)


Eldarwen said...

Jillian, oh no! Don't feel bad! I know how it is when you get busy. It's hard to write. But I do look forward to hearing from you! I have a lot to say , too. ;) <3

Haley, really? Narthea never told me Lindsay had a sister who's my age, so I didn't know until I found your blog. lol :D That's so sweet. :) I know. It WAS like going around in circles. >_< But it was still fun. :) Apples to Apples was fun, too! My absolute favorite part of the entire vacation! :D <3